Self Harm...

Self harm is a topic that people prefer not to talk about. It's a horrible thing to do to yourself and the only gain from doing it is ultimately scars. But if people took the time to talk about it to the person, then from my experience, it helps as you may be able to understand.

Self harm is a very stupid thing to do. It may not feel like that at the time, but in reflection you'll regret it. And let me tell you, you'll have missed out on so many opportunities and experiences that it is so not worth it.

I'm not going to write this as a list of reasons why not to do it. But if you are someone who self harms or you know someone who does, perhaps you have done it, maybe you are a really bored person with nothing to do, but self harm goes so deep into a persons mind that you're not going to be able to stop it just with a click of your fingers.

People self harm for different reasons. I self harmed because of what was going on in my head. And when you self harm, you are selfish. You don't see how it effects others, you don't really see their pain. You are so blind in your own self pity that you don't really see what's going on around you. Or at least I didn't. Well, not until I looked back.

Another reason why people self harm is because it is a coping mechanism. It helps them cope with what is going on in their life, whether it be depression, family issues, grief, confusion or anything else they are having a hard time dealing with. They run from what is going on. Then when they try to stop harming themselves, they can't. They become dependant on it. And they can't, or find it difficult to stop as they are so used to coping in that way.

Looking back on what I did, I see the bigger picture. But what is more heart breaking, is that someone else in my life is hurting themselves deliberately. It may have started of a way of coping with the death of his mother and the stress of a busy job, but it has now become an illness. And I hate him for it.

This man, he drinks so much. He is hurting himself and he has forgotten why. He forgets things. He forgets who we are, what he's done and why he did it. He forgets who he is. He lets the alcohol take over. Sometimes he is so lost, we don't see him for weeks. He is addicted and this illness is ruining him.

He is such a nice man. He has a big heart and is a fantastic man. He is excellent at his job and loves us. He helps people for a living. He is funny and caring. He would never hurt a fly.

But when he drinks that changes. He is hurting himself. Again and again and again.

Self harm is nothing to be proud of. It messes with your head. It has so many risks. Infection, death, losing people you care about. It is not something you should ever do. You should never burn, or cut or hurt yourself in anyway. It breaks you and everyone around you.

The long sleeves in summer and the scars that stay there for a long time afterwards. It's not fun. There is always a better way of finding a way through things.

Life is beautiful! Self harm ruins it. Do you want to ruin your life? Do you want to ruin others? Don't self harm. Life is so good! It is beautiful! Don't be stupid and ever do something you'll regret.

Things can only get better!